Petty issues with parents...

Hey,
I guess this is a very well-known topic among the teens! I mean, there are small diagreements with parents from your hairstyle to your friends, your marks at school to your television habits, your future plans to your curfew, it might just seem like you argue with your parents about everything. You often ask this question to yourself as 'why me??'. It seems as if your parents cannot decide whether you're a kid or an adult 'cuz sometimes they say is "stop acting like a baby" and sometimes they go saying "You're too small for this...!"
Not only are the parents confused but they confuse us too, like when are we supposed to act big and when to act small.
I think the cause of such fights may be related to lack of freedom, lack of voicing your own opinions, lack of trust and understanding and a lot due to wrong image of the teens shown in movies n magazines.
Due to the image shown in movies and magazines of the teenagers, all the parents have a misunderstanding that even their child may prefer the bad path under wrong influence. I agree that there are such cases of getting wrongly influenced but statistically speaking the chances are 30 out of every 100.

But the parents have an upperhand in most of the fights leading to suppression of feelings especially of anger in teens. This also surely results in hiding true feeling from parents and worse lying to them about your feelings. I am sure no parent can understand such suppression and hence more fights take place.

But I think, as its a normal and a natural phenomena, We on our part, Should try and avoid such fights by-
1.All fights can't be avoided, and sometimes a fight is needed to work out an issue. However, you should be proud of yourself when you succeed in keeping your emotions in check: It's a tough skill but a useful one.

2.Remember, your parents are people, too -- people who make mistakes, just like you.

3.If you can, find another way of getting out your anger and frustration, such as exercise, art or music. You may find that it improves your relationships with others and/or makes you a calmer person in general.

4.Count till 10 in your head.

5.Think of a way that your parents have helped or pleased you.

6.Politely remind others that you need a little space.

7.Consider what else is going on in your parents' lives.

8.Consider what else is going on in your own life.

9.Remind yourself that fighting usually doesn't solve problems.

10.Slow down and think.

I hope this helps in solving some of the most basic problems in life.